[Audiobook] “He Wins, She Wins” by Willard F. Harley, Jr.

He Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital NegotiationHe Wins, She Wins: Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation by Willard F. Harley Jr.

My rating: 3 of 5 stars

There are two parts to review in regards to this audiobook. The first is content, the second is quality of narration.

In regards to content, the book’s premise seems fairly solid. By the “Marriage Doctor,” this book seeks to help couples learn to negotiate effectively. Being in my second marriage myself, and having fostered union contract negotiations a couple of times in the past, I can definitely see how Harley can compare the two.

However, negotiations typically has the goal of everything being tolerable of the results. In negotiations, one must give and take. Yet, in marriage, there is the belief that a give and take should not be necessary for happiness. For some couples, this may be so. For others, however, sometimes being satisfied is good enough. Regardless of one’s approach to marriage, what Harley presents is a method of conflict management.

Seeing the astonishing rates of divorce in America today, mostly due to “irreconcilable differences,” this book may be just what married couples need. Harley’s ultimate goals is for the couple to be in love with each other. This is different than some approaches, however, which aim to resolve even if it places stress on the marriage.

When looking at narration, I must say that I am not impressed. Yes, it is narrated by the author. Yes, there are appropriate pauses and inflection. And yes, one can follow along with the pace. Despite all these, being the “boxes to check off,” the narration does not grab the reader. While Harley has spent significant time and effort in his book, no doubt, it feels as if the narration was not given the life it needs to take off and create its own following. If the narration is in any way a prelude to the author’s overall voice of the text, however, then readers will ultimately loose interest and not finish the reading.

With that in mind, perhaps this book is more of a workbook than a leisure book…

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