“The Dad Manifesto” by Jay Payleitner

The Dad Manifesto: 52 Things for Forever Fathers to Never ForgetThe Dad Manifesto: 52 Things for Forever Fathers to Never Forget by Jay Payleitner
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

Have you heard of the Dad Manifesto? I had not prior to coming across this title. The idea originated from a framed document called the Dad Manifesto – a collection of ideas designed to promote better engagement between fathers and their children. The list was part literal, part symbolic, but wholly inspirational. Ideas included concepts such as buying a unicycle for ten-year-olds, holding the baby, skipping rocks, and more. The original form of the manifesto was a list of “52 Things for Forever Fathers to Never Forget.” After redesigns and formatting into a visually-striking mini one-sheet to hand out at conferences, the manifesto expanded onto all sorts of marketing items one could buy and hang or drink out of. This book, according to the author, is a rendition that goes back to the roots and expands on the 52 different ideas. The goal? To better equip fathers to impact their children, children’s children, and so on.

This book is based on a primary rule for fathers: “to make memories, stop and catch the fireflies.” I can attest personally to the impact an absent father, as well as a substitute father who just doesn’t connect, can make. The role of the father is one of the most important relationships there is, since it points to the role HaShem wishes to take with us – as Abba. As a result, fatherhood is critical in the lives of children, and the statistics agree: increased crime rate, abortions, and drug use when the father is not present or actively involved. This book tackles the problem by calling fathers out and holding them accountable to encouraging and lifting up their children. No longer is it the “not good enough” stance of looking for the next achievement, but the recognition of how great your children are at that very moment. This resonates with me in part, but not whole, because at the same time our generation has grown too accustomed to rewarding mediocrity and encouraging trophies for participation. There is a fine line, but I do agree that most fathers tend to walk the role of detriment instead.

The author’s voice is (com)passionate in that he is both dedicated to the movement yet understanding of the “fatherhood plight.” He writes with a conviction that challenges fathers to man up and seize the moment to grow closer to their children instead of pushing them away. Readers will easily bond with the writer’s prose and be motivated to read the book. It’s not a long book, either, clocking at about an hour of reading time. Each chapter is quite short, focusing on the “line items,” and in that the book purchases success. By combining biblical truths and Scripture to the text, the author gives credibility and authority to the concept, cementing the call of active fatherhood in the lives of all dads, especially believers. Read on and catch the fireflies…

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