“Now You’re Speaking My Language” by Gary Chapman

Now You're Speaking My Language: Honest Communication and Deeper Intimacy for a Stronger Marriage

Now You’re Speaking My Language: Honest Communication and Deeper Intimacy for a Stronger Marriage by Gary Chapman
My rating: 4 of 5 stars

This book is a Christian book. This is an essential disclaimer to address from the beginning. While other books by Gary Chapman may have a little “religion” within the works, such as “The Five Love Languages,” this book is explicitly Christian and is not for a non-Christian audience.

Chapman’s work relies heavily on Christian theology, so even in areas that are not direct citations from the Christian Bible, there are overt connections to Christianity in mode and thought.

This book starts where Chapman’s “Love Languages” book leaves off, guiding the reader from discovering their own love languages to how to apply the concepts and focus on speaking their spouse’s love language(s). If left with this notion alone, the title would be widely popularity and open to a non-Christian audience as well.

The book is not intended to be theoretical but is actually designed to be non-academic and immediately applicable, getting into what Chapman refers to “the nitty-gritty of how to create a positive emotional climate.” This journey starts on the platform of communication. Again, the ideas are great with divorced from a Christian worldview. When enmeshed within Christianity, non-Christian readers will find themselves turned off and uninterested in what good can actually come from this work.

Chapman’s work follows his regular method of prose: simple to understand and easy to engage. Chapman spends the time needed to help the reader jump into immediate application – starting with communication and unpacking how communication leads to covenant and more. Communication is rooted in emotion, and as a result the book discusses knowing one’s own emotional and desires. After this, Chapman goes to the next level, which is really intended for married couples only…the quadrilateral pillars of intimacy: emotional, intellectual, sexual, and spiritual. Again, this book is a religious book written specifically fort Christian married couples.

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